4. Sacrifice your «manliness.»

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If a friend tells you not to let this guy or girl in, you need to tell that friend to mind his or her own business. This is your life, and your future…not your friend’s. It would be a bummer to look back on life with regret that you didn’t make that first move or take a relationship you cared about to the next level. Don’t give up on a girl that easily. You probably don’t meet girls who stand out to you on a daily basis, so seize the opportunity.

She’s done this all for you don’t forget to show your appreciation with an honest compliment. Stop trying to get a girlfriend. The first step to getting a girlfriend is to stop trying. Instead go into every new interaction you have with women expecting nothing in return. You’ll be surprised by how “not giving a shit” about the outcome makes girls chase you.

You are sure of yourself and adamant about getting what you want. Zoos are great because you never run out of conversation topics and things to do. She’ll grab you when she sees a cute animal or a scary one and after you’ve seen dozens of different animals it feels like you’ve travelled the world together, so there’s this distorted sense of time like you’ve known each other for ages.

Don’t make jokes that are mean-spirited, mock, or ridicule her or other people. If you want her to be your girlfriend, be kind to her and others, or you could drive her away. This is especially true of choosing the best time for «turning points». Example, when you ask her out for the «first date», or when you ask her to go from «just friend» to «girlfriend».

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• Yes, that can work with some women, but with most attractive women that you meet, their dream is to be able to meet a guy who makes them feel like they need to live up to his expectations.
• During class, answer a few questions to show that you’re smart.
• I hate to call them basics because I didn’t spend years of my life alone for my plan to be reduced to basics.

You aren’t going to find someone who matches you perfectly. That’s nearly impossible. At the end of the day, it’s about having someone who you enjoy spending time with, and who challenges you.

Time to get past all the negative shit and just accept it – she’s with him and not you and you’re not privy to their relationship. It has NOTHING to do with you and your relationships (or lack there of) and it’s a total waste of time to think negatively about it or them. We look at the girl, we see the guy she’s with, and we automatically assume he must be a jerk – and we don’t even know him, her, or how the relationship even got started. Forget about sex.

Find your ideal mating market, aka the place where you have the best chances of meeting your ideal type of girl and achieving your definition of dating success (for me, that’s proven to be Mexico City and New York). What’s more, girls you have chemistry with make for the best girlfriends. That natural spark is there from the beginning, and you can’t really fake it or manufacture it (though you’ll meet a lot more girls you have chemistry with if you have your dating fundamentals down).

She must know that you see her as a potential girlfriend — and not as a mere friend, or sex-friend. After kissing or having had sex, this is more obvious.

It’s essential to your conversations with women, and also keeps you out of the friendzone. Women want to see that you have potential, drive, and purpose. They don’t want a dude who’s going through the motions of life with no control or plan.